13 Best Strap-Ons and Harnesses in 2025, Per Sex Therapists

Whether you’re a top, bottom, vers—or hoping to find out—adding one (or two!) of the best strap-ons to your toy collection will make exploring in the bedroom all the more enjoyable.

First-time shopper? Here’s what you need to know: A strap-on is basically a harness that can hold a dildo, which allows you to give (or receive) hands-free anal or vaginal penetration. Using a strap-on is a hot way to try anal play and switch up power dynamics. And straps are, of course, a regular part of sex for many queer people.

Because there are so many options to choose from (more on this below), we spoke to sex experts to find out how to buy the right strap-on, whether you’re getting your first one or your twentieth.

Our top picks

1. Best Overall: SpareParts Joque Harness, $148
2. Runner-Up: Tantus Intermediate Unisex Vibrating Strap-On, $100
3. Best Budget Pick: Lovehoney Universal Strap-On Harness, $33
4. Best Kit Beginners: Lovehoney Beginner’s Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit, $50
5. Most Adjustable Harness: Sportsheets Divine Diva Plus-Size Harness, $45 $30
6. Best for a Rabbit Vibrator: Happy Rabbit Vibrating Strap-On Set, $110
7. Best Strapless: Lovense Lapis Strapless Strap-On, $170
8. Best Underwear: CalExotics Packer Gear Harness Boxer, $35 $23

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We made sure that all these picks are body-safe, highly rated, and follow our experts’ guidelines for your comfort and pleasure.

Best Overall: SpareParts Joque Harness

Praised by our experts for its fit, features, flexibility, and feel, the Joque is the best strap-on we’ve found. “This harness offers great support and is adjustable for different body sizes and toys,” Jennifer Litner, PhD, an AASECT-certified sex therapist and founder of Embrace Sexual Wellness, tells SELF.

It has two internal pockets for bullet vibes: You can tuck one vibrator in a pouch above the O-ring to provide a “pleasurable buzz” to the wearer and the person receiving in a face-to-face position, says Carol Queen, PhD, a staff expert at online sex-toy shop Good Vibes and coauthor of The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone. The second pocket can hold a vibrator against the perineum or between the labia, which will stimulate the genitals of the person being penetrated in front-to-back positions like reverse rider.

We like how adjustable this harness is—between Joque’s two sizes, it can fit hips from 20 to 60 inches around. Also noteworthy: The O-ring is made from flexible elastic, so you can swap in toys with different girths, Dr. Queen says.

Runner-Up: Tantus Intermediate Unisex Vibrating Strap-On

One of my favorite strap-ons is the Tantus Intermediate. A great option for novices, this kit includes everything you need for a fun first time: an adjustable harness, two body-safe dildos, a bullet vibe, and two removable O-rings. If you’re worried about accidentally buying a harness and dildo that won’t fit together or finding all of the “right” pieces, I highly recommend giving this set a try.

Best Budget Pick: Lovehoney Universal Strap-On Harness

Comfy and compatible with a range of dildo sizes, Lovehoney’s Universal Harness checks our most essential boxes—and at $25, it costs a bit less than some other models on our list. This jock-style pick has adjustable straps and comes with three O-rings you can swap in and out, depending on the width of your toy. The harness also has a pocket for a bullet vibe (toy not included), which can turn a regular silicone dildo into a vibrator and amp up the pleasure for all parties involved.

Best Kit for Beginners: Lovehoney Beginner’s Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit

This Lovehoney strap-on kit is our favorite for beginners because it includes the essentials: a machine-washable harness, multiple O-rings, and a 5-inch dildo that’s also anal-safe. Plus, the harness has a pocket that can hold a bullet vibrator (not included), and the whole set costs less than $50.

Most Adjustable Harness: Sportsheets Divine Diva Plus-Sized Harness

“Being comfortable when you’re having strap-on sex is extremely important,” says Javay Frye-Nekrasova, MEd, an AASECT-certified sex educator with sex toy brand Lovehoney. After all, it’s difficult to feel sexy or find the right tempo when things are unpleasantly digging or pinching into your hips, bum, or thighs, she adds.

Compared to most jock-style harnesses that only adjust up to around 60 inches, this strap-on extends to 82 inches (the largest on our list) for a better fit. Another perk: The padded back support, which should prevent chafing or discomfort in the middle of a session.

Best for a Rabbit Vibrator: Happy Rabbit Vibrating Strap-On Set

The rabbit vibrator is a popular sex toy with a long body and smaller “ears” that can stimulate the vagina and the clit at the same time. This set comes with a rabbit vibe that has a flared base (unlike most classic rabbits), so you can fit it inside the included harness’s O-ring and feel confident it won’t slip out. You also have the option to switch in a regular dildo or use the vibrator on its own.

Best Strapless: Lovense Lapis Strapless Strap-On

Lovense, a top-rated brand we’ve recommended previously, makes our favorite strapless strap-on. The dildo itself is firm enough to support easy entry, but flexible enough to move with your body—plus, it vibrates.

When you connect the toy to the Lovense app, you can control the speed and pattern of its three motors (one in the bulb, one in the base, and one in the tip) remotely. The app even lets you synchronize the Lapis with music on your phone. So, if you don’t already have a groovy sex playlist ready to go, this is your sign to make one.

Best Underwear: CalExotics Packer Gear Harness Boxer

These boxers can function as your everyday undies, and none would be the wiser. But when the mood strikes, they have a sewn-in O-ring that’s strong enough to support a dildo. As a bonus: The harness is thoughtfully designed with an internal strap that snugly secures packers (an aid designed to create the appearance of a bulge) in place.

More great picks

There are plenty more options where those came from—if none of our top picks feel like the right fit, shop other expert-approved strap-ons below.

SpareParts Sasha Couture Harness

An underwear-style harness with ribbons, lace, and detachable garters, this pick from Dr. Queen looks and feels as sleek as lingerie. But the fabric has subtle, sewn-in panels that help the harness keep its shape, ensuring that the base of the dildo stays pressed to you or your partner’s body, for easy control.

Also worth noting: The back panels can shift to accommodate double-ended dildos. Plus, there are two pouches that can fit bullet vibes—and the whole thing is machine-washable.

Happy Rabbit Vibrating Strapless Strap-On Dildo

Here’s another pick for the people who love dual stimulation: “Both ends of this rechargeable rabbit dildo can vibrate with varying strengths and patterns,” says Dr. Queen. Each end is controlled separately and offers rumbly (not buzzy) vibrations for a more intense experience.

The shorter end is shaped to “hook” into the wearer’s pelvis so it stays in place, while “the long arm is styled with a bit of a curve for G-spot or prostate stimulation,” Dr. Queen says. It’s also anal-safe—just be sure to lather up with lots of lube before you get going.

Fun Factory Ryde Double Ended Grinding Silicone Dildo

“The Ryde is a great choice if you are looking for a versatile toy,” says Frye-Nekrasova. Its suction cup base can securely attach to any strap-on harness, and the two posable dildos allow you to practice double penetration (or use one arm for penetration and one for grinding).

Unlike some of our other picks, you can also use the Ryde by yourself: Stick the base on any flat, smooth surface, and enjoy double penetration all on your own. While finding the right angle can take some trial and error, it might be worth it if you haven’t found a strap-on you like yet.

SpareParts Deuce Cover Harness

Here to prove that two is better than one is the SpareParts Deuce harness, which is also built for dual penetration, according to Frye-Nekrasova. It has two O-ring openings, she says—one that a penis can go through and one that a dildo can go through. “There are also two separate pockets for bullets. You can turn both or just one of the insertable toys into a vibrator with ease,” she adds.

Dr. Queen also notes that this strap-on has a built-in pouch that’s useful for anyone who wants to tuck their penis away without it getting squished by the dildo’s base.

Sportsheets Neoprene Harness

While most strap-on harnesses sit around your pelvis, this one Velcros around your thigh. “It’s a great alternative for those who can’t comfortably thrust,” says Dr. Queen, or “for those who like to cuddle up and rub, as it offers a penetrative upgrade to frottage.”

Best strap-on accessories

Much like pepperoni on pizza, these accessories aren’t essential to strap-on sex—they’re welcome extras that can make things more enjoyable and comfortable.

Bumpher Silicone Base

Bumpher creates a buffer between your body and the base of a dildo. “One side fits onto the bottom of your strap-on dildo, while the other is contoured for vulva stimulation,” explains Dr. Queen. “The wearer just has to adjust their harness so that their vulva and the Bumpher line-up.”

Made from squishy silicone, this accessory helps protect the pubic bone of the harness-wearer during play. (You can also put a bullet vibe inside to turn it into a contoured vibrator.)

Honeybunch Silicone Base

This dildo base introduces all the pleasure of grinding sex toys into strap-on play. “The Honeybunch is a great addition for those who like to hump and move their hips while strapped on,” says Lisa Finn, a sex educator with sex-toy store Babeland.

The textured ridges provide sensation against the vulva, while the tail end of the toy will press against the nerve-dense vaginal opening with each thrust, they say. Best of all, because it’s made from squishy silicone, you won’t risk bruising your pelvic bone if you grind hard against it.

We-Vibe Chorus

“The We-Vibe Chorus is marketed for wear during penetrative play,” says Finn—including strap-on sex. In particular, Finn recommends this vibrator for those who are wearing the strap-on: “It can provide internal vibration and G-spot sensation, without the bulk or bulbousness of a double-ended dildo,” they say.

Plus, the toy connects to the We-Vibe app and comes with a remote control that’s squeeze-sensitive, so you can adjust the vibrations without fiddling with tiny buttons.

Dame Zee Bullet Vibrator

Many strap-on harnesses have a built-in pocket for bullet vibrators (some of our picks have two!), but few include one with your purchase. That’s where this budget-friendly vibe comes in.

“The Dame Zee is a wonderful, simple vibrator that will fit into any harness with a bullet vibrator pocket, as well as into the Bumpher,” says Finn. The single-button control is at the very top of the toy, so you’ll still be able to reach it once it’s inserted.

Ohnut Stackable Rings

When it comes to dildo shopping, it’s common for hopes to be larger than holes. Luckily, for those with a dildo that’s longer than they can comfortably receive, there’s the Ohnut.

“These linkable rings are made to slide down the length of the dildo, which allow the receiver to play with various dildo lengths without requiring them to buy a bunch of dildos,” explains Finn. They can make strapping up a more enjoyable experience for the wearer, as the rings reduce their risk of hurting their partner with an extension they can’t feel.

New York Sex Toy Collective Double-Sided Suction Cup

Strapless strap-ons can be a wonderful way for two people to enjoy penetration at once. But most options feature one short, round end and one longer, leaner one, which makes them inaccessible for duos with similar preferences.

Thankfully, there’s a workaround with this double-sided suction cup, which transforms two single-sided silicone dildos into a single, DIY double-sided dildo. It can effectively attach dildos that are up to 3 pounds.

SpareParts O-Stablizer Rings

This foam ring comes from the makers of our favorite strap-on harness. It’s “designed to slide down the base of the dildo to give the dildo a thicker base,” says Finn. “This helps keep the dildo upright during play, makes controlling heavier dildos easier, and can provide security for strap-on kits that don’t have adjustable O-rings.”

Pro tip: Wetting the foam will make it easier to slide over larger dildos.